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Sweetlemon
I have four kids; Boy 8, girl 6, boy 4, boy 4. The younger ones are twins. The elder two give me the toughest of times, not that I am not part of the circus. Need tips and advice.
Answer
Sit down with them when it's time to do it. All of you sit together at the table. Look at the stuff in their back packs together. Put out some snacks and drinks, and then just sit there and watch them do it. It's tempting and sometimes even seems necessary to be up and about in the house taking care of other things. But, honestly, this is most important. When you take the time to sit there with them, then they'll think that homework must be that important. I never did this with my kids, and my kids always avoided homework and did a crappy job when they did do it. Then I watched a friend. I noticed that after her kids got home from school, she would sit at the table with them, they'd go through their bags together. They'd discuss the homework and she would sit there and watch them until they were done. Everything else waited. Her kids did very well throughout their school years. Wish I'd have known that simple trick early on....
Sit down with them when it's time to do it. All of you sit together at the table. Look at the stuff in their back packs together. Put out some snacks and drinks, and then just sit there and watch them do it. It's tempting and sometimes even seems necessary to be up and about in the house taking care of other things. But, honestly, this is most important. When you take the time to sit there with them, then they'll think that homework must be that important. I never did this with my kids, and my kids always avoided homework and did a crappy job when they did do it. Then I watched a friend. I noticed that after her kids got home from school, she would sit at the table with them, they'd go through their bags together. They'd discuss the homework and she would sit there and watch them until they were done. Everything else waited. Her kids did very well throughout their school years. Wish I'd have known that simple trick early on....
Why are my kids such a spoiled little snotheads?
Figgitfock
I have a 7 year old boy and a 6 year old girl who are whining, spiteful, ugly little snotheads who never do anything their parents tell them to do. I've done everything to get them under control. I've tried everything from taking away privileges, to putting them in the juvenile center, to punishing them within one inch of their worthless lives. Behavior has not changed one bit.
I'm running out of ideas. If I don't find a solution soon then I might need to kick them out of the house.
Well...maybe not everything duh which is why I'm asking. :)
Answer
well, first of all you need to show them that you are in contorl..
Second you need to do is take away stuff that the like not necessarily what they play with..
If a friend invites them to a birthday party and they want to go, say no.
At this age they should have chores, like helping with the dishes, sorting the laundry, help folding, putting clothes away, etc.. They might not do it exactly the way you want it, but at least you are showing them respondbility.. Then if I needs to be redone, wait until the are out side, or at school. This way you don't hurt there feeling, and the will feel more confident that they did something....
Get a chore whell this is fun and it stops the aruguing..
If you are in a public place like resturant, and they start acting up, put everyone's meal in a doggy bag and go home. Say to your guest your sorry, but my kids don't know how to behave..
Make sure that your not giving them too much sugars.. Rather say apple, or orange.
Sweet things should be a treat...
If they are acting up, during school time, when they come home, it's homework, dinner, bath, bedtime. Which means no tv, computer, outside, nothing... If they don't eat, oh well still send them to bed. They will learn that tomorrow they better eat or they will be hungry....
Make sure that your "NO" means "NO" !!!
And when they talk to you, listen, and when they yell at you, send them to their rooms, and tell them when they are ready to come out and talk to you with respect then you will listen...
It's your house. Make them know this. Yes they live there and they are your kids, but at the same time, they need to respect what they have...
Keep them busy, go to your local rec center, and register them in a class for the summer. This way they will run their little legs off and it will give you a break...
And for every cus word, make a jar, make them pay 25 cents...
This comes out of their allowence, and luch money that you give them.... Otherwise, they have to brown bag their luch....
And if they don't like what you have, like I said, they will be hungry for dinner.
When they get up in the moring, make your bed, put your laundry in the basket, clean up their room. Then come down for breakfast... etc.... If not they will be hungry for luch.....
Tell them breakfast ends at 8 or 9 am and if they don't make it, it's not on you. Kitchen is closed, to snacks, water, want something to drink etc... Get a child's alarm on the refigator and a lock.....
Make it a boot camp mom's house, soon they will hate it and get the point....
There are many things your can do... Just stick to your guns.
Also set a special time aside during the day (if they been good) and read to them, do an arts and crafts project etc....
At dinner time spend time with them on asking how there day went, and listen to them.... Show interest... Give them praise where praise is due.
And if they been good all week, take them out for luch, dinner, ice cream, etc.... But if they act up once, cancle it, and go to plan "B", you at the same time need to find a babysitter and have some personal time to yourself...... This way you can relax and get the tlc that you need. The rules should apply when your not there and make sure the babysitter is aware of your arragements.... Otherwise, it's not going to happen overnight, but they are still young now, and if you don't go to these extree measures now it might be too late....Good luck....I hope this helps.....
well, first of all you need to show them that you are in contorl..
Second you need to do is take away stuff that the like not necessarily what they play with..
If a friend invites them to a birthday party and they want to go, say no.
At this age they should have chores, like helping with the dishes, sorting the laundry, help folding, putting clothes away, etc.. They might not do it exactly the way you want it, but at least you are showing them respondbility.. Then if I needs to be redone, wait until the are out side, or at school. This way you don't hurt there feeling, and the will feel more confident that they did something....
Get a chore whell this is fun and it stops the aruguing..
If you are in a public place like resturant, and they start acting up, put everyone's meal in a doggy bag and go home. Say to your guest your sorry, but my kids don't know how to behave..
Make sure that your not giving them too much sugars.. Rather say apple, or orange.
Sweet things should be a treat...
If they are acting up, during school time, when they come home, it's homework, dinner, bath, bedtime. Which means no tv, computer, outside, nothing... If they don't eat, oh well still send them to bed. They will learn that tomorrow they better eat or they will be hungry....
Make sure that your "NO" means "NO" !!!
And when they talk to you, listen, and when they yell at you, send them to their rooms, and tell them when they are ready to come out and talk to you with respect then you will listen...
It's your house. Make them know this. Yes they live there and they are your kids, but at the same time, they need to respect what they have...
Keep them busy, go to your local rec center, and register them in a class for the summer. This way they will run their little legs off and it will give you a break...
And for every cus word, make a jar, make them pay 25 cents...
This comes out of their allowence, and luch money that you give them.... Otherwise, they have to brown bag their luch....
And if they don't like what you have, like I said, they will be hungry for dinner.
When they get up in the moring, make your bed, put your laundry in the basket, clean up their room. Then come down for breakfast... etc.... If not they will be hungry for luch.....
Tell them breakfast ends at 8 or 9 am and if they don't make it, it's not on you. Kitchen is closed, to snacks, water, want something to drink etc... Get a child's alarm on the refigator and a lock.....
Make it a boot camp mom's house, soon they will hate it and get the point....
There are many things your can do... Just stick to your guns.
Also set a special time aside during the day (if they been good) and read to them, do an arts and crafts project etc....
At dinner time spend time with them on asking how there day went, and listen to them.... Show interest... Give them praise where praise is due.
And if they been good all week, take them out for luch, dinner, ice cream, etc.... But if they act up once, cancle it, and go to plan "B", you at the same time need to find a babysitter and have some personal time to yourself...... This way you can relax and get the tlc that you need. The rules should apply when your not there and make sure the babysitter is aware of your arragements.... Otherwise, it's not going to happen overnight, but they are still young now, and if you don't go to these extree measures now it might be too late....Good luck....I hope this helps.....
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