Longboarding to School?

Alice

Sorry this is so long for one question, it's mainly all background info

So I am a female, and I started long-boarding a month ago. I got a Globe Dart strictly for cruising and transportation, lets say riding for a couple miles.

One day I was waiting for my friend to finish playing basketball with his other friends so I could car pool with him, and in came boys from my school with long boards. I was puzzled, because it looked like skate boards, but not with their pin-tail look. I was soooo tempted to ask to try it out, but I hate, hate, hate talking to packs of boys like that. It's just not me. I don't want that kind of attention but..

That was how i was inspired to get my own. I thought about it for quite a while, researched... Transportation would be faster, I might fuse some common interests with other kids, etc etc...

And so I got one. I practiced right when it delivered. I fell a total of two times! Not too shabby for my first steps on piece of wood with wheels. Now it's May --almost June and I have gone down a few baby hills. Wussy hills though. I'll admit i even get speed wobbles from them too. I think it's maybe third or fourth nature to me it seems like, because I feel like cruising is so easy now.
I learnt some tricks, like ghost-ride kick flip and...um

The problem is that I want to long-board to school because I miss the bus a lot when I'm not supposed to. When I wake up just to see the alarm clock read 7 am I panic, it's the worst. (i have to wake up at 6:30 for atleast 20 minutes.) And i have to work up guts to tell my mom im late because she has nightshifts and goes crazy without sleep after she comes home.

There fore i want to improvise a 'plan b' to ride to school with my baby (longboard). OK the real problem is is that I don't want anyone to see me longboarding for a matter of reasons.
1) I hate the amount of attention like how boarding is a male-dominant sport and they just stare, unless im with my dog who gets and loves the attention. I don't blame him, he's one sexy @ss mofo.
2) there are SOME girls, i mean like less than atleast 10 girls who board at my school. And im afraid they'll be like "Oh she thinks she's so cool" and crap, but truth is, I don't give a damn and I honestly, honestly, I am not 100% in longboarding just because it's cool, but it's a great way of transportation and the cleshay line coming in--, "to express my self "(i just love the wind in my hair, but not really because when you stop you get really hot and sweaty) I mean thats what express means in my dictionary.

etc...etc..etc..

I just don't want to be labeled as the poser, even though most of my friends know that im the girl who doesnt give a sh*t what anyone says about me, im so washed by the rules of..living, of how we live, a world of judgment. and other problems. So i hate being that girl. Im also not the dress to impress kind either. Whatever i have in my drawer, then there you go. You know? I used to hate flare jeans with my converse... but now i dont care. I just take whatever jeans i have.

So how would i gain confidence that i can walk through the doors and feel normal carrying a gym bag, violin case, and a longboard? (i dont carry all these things) without feeling so dumb and so poser like when im not trying to (im so frustrated) It's already 11:30 and i can already predict that im going to snooze in the morning, but ill stay up for answers. Please give me some advice, to get over what seems so dumb. I know some say just do it but its this one little thing. Even my best friends are like 'you are REAALLLLY going to skateboard from here to there?' because i can feel the tension of them thinking "oh shes a poser", but i really believe that longboarding can change my life. I know that sounds dumb, but it helps me out so much. I hope you read all of this, if you did and answer too:'), xoxoxo make my night please.

Answer
Wow a lot of writing. If you actually like skating and you're doing it for you, then you're not a poser. And if you're not a poser, it shouldn't bother you. Just be you and do what you want and people will get used to it. Hope this helps and have fun skating!

I'm 24 and still high school nightmares are chasing me!?

back in high school i was like in hell, i never had self confidence the students there always made fun of me called me hurtful names, the guys even made fun of me because i was shy and short and thin, always isolated and that hurt me alottttttt! even though deep inside i had potentials and i adored dancing and singing but i was so closed...now Iâm 24 and have a fiancé and still those students are chasing me and Iâm feeling i have complications and Iâm so tired whenever i get close to a friend i remember my bad days and i think that she will hurt me, if Iâm in public Iâm scared that i will talk or act wrong and the people will make fun like it used to happen in school, my fiancé is popular and tells me Iâm amazing even though he doesn't know about that old days that i had i never tell him because Iâm so ashamed! i have rage and hatred i want to be normal and forget and have self confidence to be me again! What can i do? please help!

Answer
I think quite a few people have a hard time "letting go" of their high school memories (for good and for bad)...there are plenty of other people out there that hold onto those memories as the "best days of their lives", who I actually feel sadder for, because what does that say about their future, their current family situation, their marriage, their retirement and whatnot.

The "good" for you is - YOU haven't lived the "best" years of your life yet, especially if you're not defining high school as those years. So, instead of despair and self-consciousness, why not consider your present situation and live "in the now" and think about that chapter being closed (thankfully) and enjoy the compliments that are sent your way. I know many people define their present personality on what it was between the ages of 14 - 19 and it has an affect on their overall perception of their outward worldview as well as their inward self. Fortunately, it sounds like you are living a much better life than 10 years ago and in this new chapter, you might do yourself (and your fiancee) better justice as to NOT live down to your ex-highschool kids (and I highlight KIDS) expectations of you.

I guess my question is...if you didn't like these guys in high school that were mercilessly teasing you, then why put stock into what they say to you? I mean, here you have a fiancee (who you presumably love) saying you're awesome and you'd rather believe the kids from 10 years ago, who you didn't really care about when you think about your self image. It's just a shift in your thinking/belief patterns that you need to acknowledge the loving, supportive people in your life now that think you are wonderful rather than hang your life's perception on 15 year old, douche bag boys from 10 years ago.

Conversely, don't you know those people who are having a hard time in "real" life as an adult that often say..."high school was so awesome, I was a star athlete, queen of the pep squad, my parents had all the parties and I got a Camaro right when I was 16..." Now, they have no clue how to survive in a society that doesn't care how popular they were in high school, about their being the star running back, or kissing Suzie Jenkins...they just want you to perform in their place of business, listen to your manager and be another "cog" in the wheel of commercialism/capitalism...the rest, is just filler.

So, fill your own life, your present life with good memories...no, GREAT memories of WHO you have loving you NOW...not back then. It's a waste of time to hang on to those ugly memories of self doubt and childish pigeon holes that High Schoolers inevitably place us into.

peace,

baldy

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